I got 2 phones one for your mom and pokemon go
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A teen's world is so separate from us as parents, and communication among teen friends is a mystery to us, especially with cell phones and computers in the game. Texting has become such a fabric of our culture that we have accepted it and often fail to limit it with our kids. It's important that we as parents check ourselves and realize when we have "checked out" a little bit. I realized through this punishment that what I really wanted to instill in my son is that I am his parent, I make the rules, I am involved, and I want the best for him because I love him. The key is to remain aware of your child's life, cell phone activity included. Although I did see some positive results from this action, there were probably other ways to get the same result. I suppose I could have gotten these results even without taking his phone away. And I wanted to get more of a handle on his social life. When our son said he had no alarm clock, we realized we only had one in the entire house, the one we use! Thus, unless we wanted to wake our son up,(which would defeat the lesson of being responsible, we thought) we had to let him use his phone as an alarm.Ĭould the behavior or results change, with or without the phone? I wanted my son to get up earlier, clean his room, take more responsibility. But some of it they really do use, like the alarm clock. Some of it, maybe most of it, a fifteen-year-old can live without. Phones are radios and gps's and Internet access and calculators and flashlights, too. His friends write entire college essays on their phones. He checks his e-mail for updates from his college and his work. My eighteen-year-old son takes notes and writes to-do lists on his, and sets himself reminder tones. "I don't have an alarm," he said, "it's on my phone." Cell phones are now more like lifelines. The night before his first day, I reminded him to get to bed early and set his alarm. During this cell phone takeover, my son started his first job.
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Kids need their phones for other things, too. Plus, as for arranging pick up and drop-off times for rides, it really did make things more complicated for us as parents.
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I didn't like not having access to my son, or his not having a phone, for safety reasons. Sometimes they wouldn't answer their phones, or their phones would be "dead". Or I would tell him to call me at a certain time to check in, only to realize I would have his phone! I did know a few of his friend's cell numbers, and they always had phones with them, but the communication couldn't be counted on. Many times when my fifteen -year- old was with his friends and without his cell phone, I realized I wanted to check in on him, but couldn't. When both of my kids started to venture about town with friends and without parents (at about age 12) it was comforting to me to know I could call them, or they could call me, at any time. I remember going outside to play as a kid and being gone all day with no contact at all with my parents until dinner. Today's parents have grown accustomed to instant contact with their kids through cell phones, and kids are getting cell phones now at age ten or even younger. ( Actually, it was a connection that had never been there since our son has had a cell phone since he was twelve years old, being the last of his group to get one, by the way.) Although my son's friends are always at our house, or in our car, it was nice to feel in the loop of my son's life in this way, too.Ĭontact with your kid will be lost. It was an extra connection that I realized had been missing. I REALLY liked this! I got to hear their voices, hear them say "hello", call me "Mrs.", and ask politely if they could speak to their friend, my son. Without his phone, it forced his friends to do things the old fashioned way if they wanted to contact him-they had to call our house, speak to me, and ask to speak to our son. Some of his friends drive now, so he is very mobile. If being a social butterfly were an Olympic sport, our son would be a gold medalist! He is constantly with friends, staying at friends' houses, going to movies, going swimming, camping out, playing basketball at local courts-you name it, our son is on the move doing it. I liked actually speaking with my son's friends on the phone. I do think the positives outweighted the negative, so let me start with the positives first. If you are thinking about taking away your kid's phone, there are some things to consider.